I volunteer every week, I put others before myself, etc. When I talk to him about this he seems to agree that he doesn't like the person he's becoming and doesn't look forward to a career in medicine, but says he can't leave medicine. Of course he invited me to come with him, but he is in the wedding, so I'll be sitting there watching him in the wedding on my 30th birthday weekend. I look back the 13 years with such sadness and loneliness; I was extremely busy and had no time for myself or others.
Plan on rolling your eyes A LOT at family get torturers together. When you make the best choice for you, blessings will follow. I wish I had not ignored the signs whiles we dated but now I am out of energy. The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. Not being an RM, they weren't really interested in me. Let me say this so you can get an idea of just how crazy and how much your girl friend is into the Mormon religion: These are known as "garments". I want to do that though with my husband involved, not be married and be like a single mum. It was more about my own spirituality and our relationship in our marriage. I guess I can understand that because his door needs to be locked from the outside and it would be too soon in our relationship to give me a key. I think that if these two really care about each other that she should be told to take a moment and ask herself how she would feel if they break up over this and years later she finally researches her religion.
Be gentle with them and yourself. If she is motivated enough to want to go on a mission, she will likely not settle for having a second class "eternal companion" you who is a convert or one who cannot be sealed to her for eternity. I have been understanding of the demands of his career for many years, but I have come to realized that I'm not happy living this way. Dating a dr is hard. The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming. The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. Anything she learned about mormonsim, she wanted to learn on her own. Good luck to both of you on working this out, and if you decide that interfaith marriage is something you can handle and your gentlemen turn out to be the right men for you, then welcome to the club.
There's a picture of the magic rock he found while digging a neighbor's well. I'm in the exact same pulling-out-my-hair situation that you are. I went to BYU. Notify me of new comments via email. I grew up in Utah, attended BYU, and served a mission. If you can genuinely deconvert her then cool. No one understands it, so thank you for sharing your thoughts so I know I'm not alone and not being too needy for feeling alone.